Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

As men/AMAB, I think it’s a good idea when interacting with women that we recognize that every woman we speak to has likely had a great deal of terrible interactions with men. I assume that until I’ve proven otherwise, I’m seen as a potential threat. Assume that without enthusiastic consent you’re applying too much pressure, because women typically are socialized to say yes in place of possibly hurting a man’s feelings, because when men’s feelings are hurt they can become dangerous.

It’s not that all men are dangerous, but any man has that potential, so it may as well be all men.