Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

bloodymediocrity: that makes sense and I can see how asking twice, while benign on my side, could actually be that. That makes sense and I honestly wasn’t aware… like I don’t think my friends or circle have ever had experiences like that I’m almost, thankfully in some way, deaf to that. My friend circle has been immune to that and all of them found people within their circle so and we all grew up in hookup friendly environments. When I talk to my women friends about dating… most of them have hooked up a lot with people on first dates and thought really nothing of it, and seem to have no problem saying no… and so perhaps I took verbal responses too much on face value.

copa: I think my first post was that. I disagreed with Anonymousse’s form of attack on me and response. That’s all. I never disagreed with the advice… which is to perhaps refrain from hooking up on the first date because of how it might be perceived. All I did was defend myself against Anonymousse’s and Kate’s accusation that I like… am some kind of predator. The person was sexist (I think the person attacked me and then when I responded against it, the person and Kate said literally something like “oh here comes men again”) and sort of belittled me about my beliefs about how first-date hookups, while drinking, is okay. I’ve had relationships, I’m 36, I didn’t drunk rape someone even though I think that’s what the two of them believe, and so yes I should be offended. But I think Wendy’s originaly and subsequent points make sense.