Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

Nonono, I think you’re mildly strawmanning here and not arguing in good faith. I never said women don’t go through this. All I said is that I’ve been lucky enough growing up in NYC in albeitedly an odd socially and sexually liberal group… that my closest women friends have never faced full on sexual assault and rape. And you’re right it’s lucky. I’m sure women do go through this all the time.

I said that this was an anomaly and I’m tracing back why I undervalued how preyed upon or attacked women feel… and I acknowledge this. I think my friend group and the women I know are lucky here… and it isn’t the same elsewhere in the world and yes I acknowledge that. I’m stating that this difference in background is probably why I undervalue the risk that women feel going home on a first date. But again, most of the women I date longer-term, have not had a problem with this. But some do. And now I can see why. And I think it’s best to be more cautious. But… sometimes communication breakdowns happen.