Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

Yes Bess Marvin, and that’s why I think I undervalued at first the impact of asking twice would have. I agree. I’m saying because I have never encoutered it and that it’s less visible in my sphere… that’s why I think I undervalued how first-date hookups feel to women and why asking twice is a no-no. That does make sense to me.

I’m stricly debating the claim that hooking up on first dates is inherently bad (because my personal experience, friendships, and relationships with people say otherwise) and the idea that… consent is hard to fully obtain and understand.

I don’t think relying on women to initiate with men is a viable solution because of what I wrote above.