Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.
These:
https://www.vox.com/2016/6/16/11905642/tea-and-consent-sexual-assault
Take a read if you want. Hey also quit yelling at me also. If this has been triggering I’m sorry but… I honestly do think I’m in decent company with the idea that consent is tricky. Also your idea of women being the only ones who should initiate is… not really a valid idea? How would they know if I consented if they initiated? If the answer is… they don’t know either… then I honestly think it plays to the idea that… full consent is hard to determine even with best efforts. And so… the idea stands… that I did nothing wrong and that even bad sex doesn’t imply that I did anything wrong.
Bess: This is more of a one off. I’m asking advice because it was more of an outlier than the norm. It really did catch me by surprise. I think… I talk to people I date and they often say they feel comfortable with me and that I didn’t pressure them to do anything. So, I was surprised and wondering about what happeend. And that’s the truth… this is sort of an outlier to me.
