Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

You haven’t been in a serious relationship in a long time. I don’t even think you have many or any female friends, because if they were close to you, you’d go to them for relationship advice, not a random site that you say you’ve read for years but you don’t Wendy’s tagline, know Kate or I (active people on the site for like, ever) or basic dating etiquette? I doubt that.

You buried the lede that you couldn’t get it up. That’s probably it, Jeff. That’s why you didn’t get a second date.

I was merely trying to make the point/ educate you that as a modern man, who is worldly and attuned to modern women’s issues, perhaps you could behave more gentlemanly on dates, instead of rushing right to “hooking up,” (what 36 year old says that?!) not getting it up and making women feel like all you want is sex. After about 27/28 if you beg women to come home with you on the first date, it’s not really a compliment anymore, because at that age women like to feel valued as human beings. When you say on your profile that you want a serious relationship, they get disappointed if you try to hook up with them on the first date, which is what your date told you.

I don’t need luck, thanks anyways. I’m happily married. My husband is a fucking rockstar and has the emotional depth of the Marianna trench compared to some…

You literally are blissfully unaware, as you said. You said you were deaf to the issue, is that not the same as being blind to it? Unaware? Unconcerned?