Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

Having read all of the back and forth I have to say I have a new take on the whole thing:

She doesn’t want to see you again because you were pushy – but with the new information supplied, if I were in here shoes, I suspect she also thinks you don’t have your shit together and you’re acting like a teenager. If she’s in her mid-20’s up to early 30’s and she wants marriage and kids, she doesn’t have time to fuck around with a guy that can’t hold his liquor and is still focused on hookup culture.

Despite saying that you want a relationship and all your relationships started with a hookup – you couldn’t just spend the evening getting to know her. You pushed for a more physical encounter and then you couldn’t perform. Either because you drank too much or you were too nervous – neither of which says “I’m a functional adult.”

If you have performance issues, the best remedy is to know the person better. Have some emotional connection that allows some security. If you drink too much – well that’s on you. You have to know your limits.