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I’m not sure how I’m getting perceived here as less mature than the 2 people screaming and cursing at me and name-calling.
Lis: That makes sense and I can see how that’s perceived again. Look, I think we’re actually past that. I already accepted and I keep saying this… that I think the advice to not hookup on first dates is good. I don’t want to be misperceived. But I do think there truly is nothing, and I mean nothing, wrong with doing that. You claim you don’t… but I do think you really do believe there’s something at odds with hooking up on a first date and relationships. Furthermore, I think I’m not rebutting against the idea that I did somsething wrong… and that I “should know better”… a few posts ago Anonymousse was talking about how the women should initiate and I think I made ap retty decent argument about how that isn’t fullproof either. Nobody has responded about why that’s at all a good solution and how the woman should deal with the risks of initiating (how does she know that the men fully consents). All of this leads me to say that… dating/sex/hookups/consent and, more generally, what’s RIGHT AND WRONG, is more complicated than the screaming here suggests it is. Back to the articles that nobody seems to like reading.