Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

Dude – I really don’t care. If you want to have one night stands from now until the end of your days – have at it. And I know plenty of people who started their relationship with a ONS. No judgement. If both parties are into it – rock on.

You did nothing wrong technically – I’ve said this. This group gave you some background on why your date’s perception may have been “you were pushy”. But based on everything you noted, she was fully in control and could consent. You however… maybe not so much. If you want to drink excessively, that’s between you, your wallet and your liver. And women who are looking for what you offer, it’ll be awesome. But for women who are looking for someone to have their version of adult life… the scenario you presented…meh.

Also, and I don’t mean to kick you when you’re down but do you think she said what she said because she didn’t want to say that she was disappointed? I mean, your feelings were hurt because you were called pushy, or at least you were questioning your behavior. But maybe it’s better than “I spent hours talking to you, and we totally connected until that last part.” ?

Again – as women we’re conditioned to be careful with men’s feelings. Do you think that’s a possibility?