Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

I’m sure Jeff is long gone now, but I wanted to point out something in case he’s still poking around

It was you who perceived Anonymousse and Kate’s early posts as aggressive, when they really weren’t. They were direct with you and straight to the point, which you saw as seen as aggressive because of how women are typically socialized to cater toward men’s feelings. You responded even more aggressively and escalated things.

This behavior is exactly the kind that women are wary of and why consent is a tricky issue: You never know how a man is going to react to a woman being direct. You reacted like you were being attacked and got defensive.

I have serious doubts you would have reacted that way if Ron or I had given you the exact same comments.