Reply To: He doesn’t want to make official because of the distance

I don’t personally understand the distinction people make between being exclusive and being boyfriend/girlfriend. That didn’t used to be a thing. What distinction do you see between the two? How would things be different if he called you his girlfriend? How would you feel different? Do you think it’s right to call someone your boyfriend who you’ve spent extremely limited time with in person? I think his position makes sense, that you need to spend time dating in person to see if you work well as a couple. I think you should be patient and try to take it one day at a time.

I do think that documenting every moment of his day sounds excessive and weird. Is he feeling pressure from you to prove something? You say he does that like he’s your boyfriend, but that’s not what boyfriends do. That’s not normal. Does it feel normal to you?