Good point Anonymousse. When at my bio-dad’s funeral everyone was saying what an amazing person he was and I was like ‘who the hell are you talking about?”. I mean, the guy wasn’t evil but he wasn’t this selfless character they were portraying. A few months after his death my step mother and I had a really open conversation about my dad’s faults but then a short time later she switched back to “everything he did was wonderful” and I just had to step away because it was just maddening. I loved the guy, but I knew who he was.
@Lucidity – when that shit happens, and it will, just say nonsense phrases like “I’ve certainly felt his absence.” or “Time brings perspective” just leave the “… and I’m glad that mofo is gone.” silent