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It’s good that you have the self-awareness to realize you crave the highs and lows, but it’s not great that you seem to not only be attracted to, but give way too much headspace and attention to, guys that mistreat you. And something within you seems to like the idea of these guys being “sociopathic” (that’s not a good or accurate word to use to describe stuff like this btw) or “cruel.” What’s really going on is these guys just aren’t into you / aren’t available to you. Do you think you’re attracted to that because you’re actually not ready for anything serious (you sound very young), so these guys are “safe” in a sense? Or do you think it’s more that you on some level seek out guys who treat you badly? You should think about it. And the proper thing to do here is just delete and block both these guys, because they’re both a waste of time. The longer you stay hung up on them, the longer you’re going to wait to find a nice relationship with someone who likes you back.
ETA, sorry, just saw your last sentence about wanting to be asexual or aromantic. I’m not sure what you mean by that exactly, but yeah, sounds like you’re really not ready for anything so you’re wasting your own time with these time-wasters who don’t want anything from you.
- This reply was modified 4 months, 1 week ago by Kate.