Reply To: How do I fix myself and be self sufficient after a series of bad relationships?

I agree with BM.
Stop giving people so many chances and allow them so many excuses. Like, you’re defending them but hey be treated you badly. I don’t care what happened in their pasts, that’s no excuse for treating you poorly.

You titled your post “how can I fix myself and be self sufficient?” You can fix yourself with figuring out why you’re attracted to unavailable guys who don’t treat you well probably in counseling or therapy.

Therapy, spending more and more time alone or with friends, but alone is really good for building self sufficiency. Focus on what you want, what makes you happy instead of these crap guys who aren’t even giving you what you want? Look less to men for your self esteem and you will find you expect more from them. Why add people who add uncertainty and drama?