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You describe yourself self as “crazy and acting out-of character” but what happened to you…newly moved to a new place,new area and living with someone and then seemingly out of the blue,being dumped and “kicked out” of your home…would be devastating for anyone.
dating and sleeping with someone else so soon was maybe not a good choice for you,as you are upset about it, but you did nothing wrong,. You were broken up!
Your boyfriend sounds like a poor bet for a happy and lasting relationship. He seems to flip back and forth,in and out,in his devotion. He seems to not know what he wants and is dragging you into this roller- coaster. Plus he calls all the shots and terms and you seem to feel you have no power or say. He has double standards too,it sounds like. Though him having sex when you two were broken up before is not bad,even if it was soon,in your opinion. He seems manipulative and holding you to a different standard than he does himself. Plus why is he going through your phone?
The on and off nature/frequent break-ups of your relationship is another bad sign. I think you would be better off without him and you are in for more of this negative pattern,more stress and heartbreak in the future. If you still want to keep trying,let him move in and fulfill the lease. Get your own place so when he pulls this crap again you will at least have a home. Sorry,I think you should just totally walk away.