Thank you so much for your honest input. I really appreciate it.
In regards to his behavior, yes I’ve noticed he gets really heated over this.
We’ve had this conversation before which I have tried to be consistent with but I’m busy a lot, from now on if I’m busy I’m just going to tell him I can’t talk at that moment.
I’m not sure if this is the answer but this is what I am going to try going forward.
It really ruined my mood and I didn’t get to finish organizing because I was so confused.
I did feel like I was being gaslighted because I felt confused about whether my feelings were valid, hence why I came on here to find some validity to how I was feeling (sad, controlled, confused). He’s never done this in person, it’s only when I’m on the phone with him.
We aren’t in a long-distance relationship, we live about an hr away from each other so Monday – Thursday we don’t see each other. But some Fridays we do see each other and normally spend the weekend together getting things done.
I am worried that this is the “beginning” of his need to be in control of the relationship, and that does terrify me. I am actually trying not to think this way because I just want to think that this is just a pet peeve of his.
I have been with him for a year and 3 months now, we have had other issues in our relationship that I feel we’ve been able to address thru communication.