Reply To: Will my bf love me?

Well, my boyfriend didn’t say “I love you” to me until we had dated almost a year. We are getting married in November and now he tells me multiple times a day. Some people just need longer to be sure. I appreciated him taking things slowly because I’ve been in relationships where we rushed into things before and it always ended disastrously. I do feel that you saying it two months in was pretty premature. I don’t think you can really know that you love someone that early on, but that’s just my opinion.

I think you need to look at the big picture of your relationship and also trust what your gut is telling you. Is he there for you when you really need support? Does he make plans with you for the future? Has he introduced you to important people in his life? It’s actually very easy for someone to say “I love you” and not mean it but much harder for them to live up to those words every day. Does he behave like he loves you or does he act like this is just a fling?

Ultimately, you get to decide what you need from a relationship and how long you are willing to wait for it. And maybe this guy is not what you need. But you can’t badger or pressure him into saying he loves you. Either he will or won’t. All you get to decide is whether you’ll still be there to hear it if and when he does.