Reply To: “My Niece Is Hurting”

I agree for LisforLeslie. Does his reasoning really matter? We can guess. The LW can guess. The fact is, it’s over and he wants to cut contact. You don’t always get a clear reason of why someone wants to break up. Of course it hurts. Of course it feels like your world is ending, especially when you’re so young. The best thing to do is to be there for her. Listen. Support her. You can’t really fix it.

I wouldn’t try to explain his reasoning to her because the fact is, we don’t know. If you go the nuclear option, a couple of things could happen. She could be super resentful and hate him. Fine. That might help her get over him faster. BUT… it could also make her weary of future relationships and have a hard time trusting people.

I’m not a fan of stoking the fire, unless someone truly is an asshole, abusive, cheater, harmful, etc.

Sometimes people do things that we don’t understand or like. We have to accept it and move on. We can’t control others actions. That’s probably the best lesson here.