Agree that there’s no point in trying to figure out the reasons. This is a great time for some life lessons. 1. People are always the hero of their story. It’s great to believe and trust someone, but if their words and deeds don’t match up… that’s pretty sus. And if they claim that all their ex’s are crazy or all of their bosses are assholes – there’s only one common factor. 2. No one has ESP. So if someone needs you to know something, they have to use their words (and deeds) to communicate. 3. Sometimes it’s better to not know and just figure out how to let it go. What, if any, information is going to make your niece feel better about the situation? If the worst reasons are confirmed, is she going to feel better about being duped? If it’s just that he wants to deploy unencumbered, is that going to make her feel better? Sometimes the answer to “why” is worse.