Reply To: “My Niece Is Hurting”

Agreed that the reasons don’t matter. (Every scenario outlined here is plausible, but it may be as simple as him being young and too emotionally immature to execute a better breakup than this.) Not to mention, I can recall a couple times after a breakup where someone well intentioned tried to tell me what they think may have happened and all it did was make me feel worse! I eventually learned that even when I was hurt, it didn’t matter why someone didn’t want to date me. What mattered was that they didn’t want to date me.

I think all you can do is offer support while she goes through it. Lend a listening ear. Encourage her to go out with friends and stay active. If you live nearby, doing an activity she enjoys together would be a nice distraction. Help her get excited for her next semester at college and her future after.

We all get through our devastating breakups, so she will be okay!