Reply To: “Did My Partner Emotionally Cheat On Me?”

And his story, which is all you have to go on, has contradictions.

HE said SHE wanted to be friends. Okay. But a woman who wants to be friends and not cross boundaries does NOT initiate a kiss. A woman is only going to do that if she feels romantic attraction that’s reciprocal. She was seemingly getting cues from him that made her confident a kiss would be welcomed.

And then when you texted her and her response was “I’ll never text him again.” Ok, that doesn’t really fit the picture of her knowing he’s happily in a relationship and they are just friends. It reads a lot more like she didn’t know he was in a relationship at all, or she did but thought he was being discreet. If this was totally above board and just friendship, wouldn’t she tell you that?

You’d be a lot better off here trying to get to the bottom of what he’s thinking and feeling, and clearly communicating the same to him, as well as what you’re comfortable and not comfortable with, than sweeping this under the rug. Counseling would be a good idea.