You’re not a Debbie Downer, @Ange. I think it’s nice to have this community to talk to… the anonymity here can be helpful when discussing personal matters, and the regulars are (IMO) intelligent and thoughtful in response. I’m not familiar with military life, but I can imagine there’s a stigma when it comes to mental health… so yeah, I can see him (anyone, really) minimizing what he’s feeling or experiencing. He’s on anti-depressants right now to see how it goes, right? Hoping he finds treatment that actually works for him. And I hope you’re taking care of yourself too.