Reply To: Breakup

It’s great you’re both in therapy individually, but I’d move on from this guy. I do believe people can change if they’re motivated, but I also believe real, lasting change is slow… two or three months of therapy doesn’t make for a changed man. This is someone who crossed your boundaries multiple times and continued to cross them in escalating ways. And it sounds like you only found out about the other woman because she showed you their texts.

From what’s written, it doesn’t actually sound like you’ve cut ties from this guy in meaningful ways, so it’s no wonder you can’t shake off your feelings for him. Try staying in therapy but going no contact.