Please don’t hang on to potential. You will continue to invest years in someone’s what-if… unless that’s what you’re wanting? But it doesn’t sound like it. I did this for 8 years with an ex who couldn’t stay faithful while he kept showing me who he was. I was afraid to leave and be alone, but believe me- that is so much better than fishing for crumbs. You deserve the whole cookie! Just figure out what your dealbreakers are don’t justify anything other than that. Keep looking at this thread when you feel weak or uncertain .