Reply To: “My Partner is out of Town and I Don’t Want Him to Come Home”

Your entire last paragraph! Why are you so concerned/obsessed about hurting his feelings? You are living in a way that makes you unhappy and want freedom. I think the best thing you can do is tell him open and honestly, calmly that you need more time to yourself. That’s not a hurtful comment. I need time to myself, my whole family knows it and respects it. To me, it sounds like you’re not communicating what you need in a relationship and are just doing everything, the motions to keep him happy. Why? Keeping the man of the house happy used to be a thing, but it’s not anymore. He can make himself happy, you can have time to yourself.

Speak up and stop going through the motions. Maybe this relationship has run its course. But you have to talk and figure that out. Good luck.