Reply To: Can’t get over him, but I have a new family?

It’s a dangerous nostalgia which can eat away at your current relationship. Reality can’t win a competition with fantasy. No reality is that good. However, you do need to evaluate your current relationship and determine where you and your partner think it can be better and then try, with or without counseling, to make it better for both of you. This doesn’t need to be at all negative and certainly shouldn’t be allowed to turn so negative that your partner implodes. Just normal checking in on the relationship. How can we better handle the stress of a one-year old? What can we find to treat ourselves to quality dating-style couples’ outings? How might we spice up our sex life? Where do we see ourselves a year from now?

Even if you decide that this relationship isn’t right for you, after giving it a solid shot at improvement (which a share one-year old should make an absolute requirement) I doubt that your ex is the solution to your problems. There are reasons that was over 5 years ago, after only a year. Right guy/wrong time is way too easy and explanation to give yourself, meaning it is likely incorrect.

Have you seen your doctor for an evaluation to screen out post-partum or other depression?