Reply To: Cheated and guilty

Just spit-ballin’ here:

Is it possible that your anxiety is because on some level, you were hoping your relationship with your boyfriend was going to end?

It’s not uncommon for affairs to begin because it’s easier in some ways to do something perceived as “so unforgivable” that the relationship HAS to end, rather than having the difficult conversation to end the relationship or address the core problems.

But now he hasn’t ended the relationship, you’re in a constant cycle of stress and anxiety because you don’t know how to advocate for what you want?