What are you looking for with these texts? Your friend’s spouse is likely on a ventilator without a great prognosis. Is that what you want to hear? There’s nothing you can do. I’m not trying to be mean, but literally there isn’t anything you can do and you’re asking her to take time and emotional energy to text you stuff that’s really painful. Don’t do that. Text her you’re thinking of her. Go on the weekend to drop food at her house for her kids. Get in touch with the people caring for the kids and offer to take them somewhere, or cook, or clean. Ask THEM for any updates. Don’t ask your friend.