Reply To: Confused if we’re frenemies or something else????

Hi! It sounds like you do like him and have a crush on him despite what you are saying. (It’s okay if you do.) And it sounds like he has a crush on you, too. But if you think you’ve seen his true colors and he is a bully likely to lose interest in you, probably best to steer clear. If you decide to date, that’s okay — like @Anonymousse said, make sure you’re having fun and checking in with yourself about how he’s actually behaving and treating you.

Also, beware of what Disney and romcoms tell you love should look like. What’s fun to watch as a movie — the dramatic breakup before getting back together, the getting a man to change for you or changing yourself to be what a man wants, the settling for a man who sucks — is not something you should be trying to replicate IRL. I could write pages about why Noah from The Notebook — a movie that came out when I was in HS that so many of my gal pals thought showed the ULTIMATE love story — sucks.