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“When it comes to dating, the last thing I want to do is to trick some innocent girl into bed without knowing who I am.”
Then tell them right away, or drop it completely. I personally think that if a guy brought this up to me as a “getting to know you,” fact about you, I’d be put off and probably wouldn’t see you again because no one likes the thought of violence like that. It is a huge turn off and can be a red flag to women, just you bringing up the topic of rape too soon.
I don’t understand why you think you need to come clean or tell anyone. I understand he was your biological predecessor, but he wasn’t your father. He didn’t raise you. You aren’t a violent man, are you? You aren’t a rapist. You aren’t a damaged person because your dad did that. You can’t control who your parents were but you also don’t have to tell everyone about it, either. If you’re personally struggling with it, you should speak to a qualified professional like a therapist. Personally, I would wait, but I don’t understand why someone should stop seeing you because of this, either.