Reply To: When is the right time to tell someone I’m dating that I was conceived of

This is so sad. You are not your father and you should not be paying for his sins. Your mother never should have put that weight on a child. I’m not sure why we as humans always feel like our family’s decisions and actions are somehow a reflection on us or a part of who we are, but we do and we take on all of the guilt and embarrassment associated with it. If someone judges you for someone else’s behavior – behavior that happened before you were even born – that’s a them problem. You don’t need to spend your life walking around with a “caution sign” attached to your forehead. Unless you are also a violent person or a rapist you don’t need a warning label.

This is something you really need to work through with a licensed therapist. You don’t OWE anyone an explanation about your parentage and someone who genuinely cares about you will care about you no matter who you’re parents are.