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I think rather than try to force a more intimate relationship with your boyfriend’s brothers than they seem interested in, you would be better off focusing your energy on managing your expectations and getting your emotional needs met where reciprocity is available and offered. It sounds like you are longing for family-type people in your life and that makes sense, but you’re looking in the wrong place. Creating your family isn’t about partnering with someone and taking on their family as your own. I mean, it *can* be that, but more often, it’s about cultivating a group of people over years who uplift you and support you and challenge you to expand your thoughts and, in general, enrich your life. Your boyfriend’s brothers aren’t enriching your life. You’ve seen no really glimmer that that’s an option at the moment. Quit putting energy there and put energy into making some real friends. You can build bonds with friends that can eventually feel familial, and you have a much better chance building such bonds with people who want that, too. Boyfriend’s brothers aren’t that.