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Yes, I need to do that, I’ll keep trying until I see my counselour. Thanks!
…you’re right, at the end I just give myself more importance than what really was. Ouch. No, someone who values honesty doesn’t sound like someone bad, I’ll remember that.
Why? Maybe because I have a story of overthinking, I guess, and to be really hard on myself when I make a mistake. Also, checking the chats with him I found many many red flags that I “blissfully” ignore, and it ashamed me to be such a fool.
Thanks for the perspective of the bigger picture, it puts things on a better place. And yes, I don’t think I’ll forget this any soon. Thanks!
Thanks for that, I need to read it. Yes, I think shame has already done its job, now I have to stop it because it’s like you wrote, a spiral of self-hatred very unuseful. Yes, yes and yes, worst it’s that I lose precious time for studying, now I’m trying to catch up, and that was compromise with myself.
I like that phrase, I’m writing it down on paper. And my default reaction would be studying, I guess. Thanks again!
Thanks a lot to everyone for answering. Best of wishes!