Reply To: How to get my bf’s brothers to see me as a sister?
A little late to this, but yes, this does seem to be a desire stemming from the state of your relationships with your own nuclear family. I don’t have the best relationship with my nuclear family, either, and I get it — it can feel lonely or like you’re missing out on something that others have. I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting to be close to your boyfriend’s family, but you can’t force it. I like Wendy’s suggestion to look for your chosen family in your friendships. A good rule of thumb in life is to invest your energy in the people who are happy to meet you halfway when it comes to building and maintaining a relationship. Your boyfriend’s brothers aren’t interested, and that’s ok.
“Is this a midwestern cultural thing that I didn’t know was a midwestern cultural thing?”
This made me LOL. I’m in the midwest but not originally from here and can’t imagine anyone in the Midwest doing this. I find the whole Midwest Nice thing exhausting, even passive aggressive sometimes. I was mistaken for being from the east coast often when I first moved to my current city. Like no, I’m just mean? (I’m not at all, but… you know.)
