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This is my north east coast take on social relations with casual strangers:

Like, being an awkward teen or a boy and generalizing, clueless about manners is not that strange to me at all. I grew up east coast, suspicious of everyone, and feel more at ease with someone sizing me up, as well, than someone who is overtly friendly and wants to shake hands.

I did spend about ten years+ after college on the west coast, which dimmed my suspicious nature a bit. Being back in PA (not technically NE, but east) has made me as suspicious as ever.

That being said, I’m super friendly, talk to every shopkeeper and salesperson I know, my next door neighbor is an elderly Korean man who doesn’t speak much English and I don’t speak any Korean and were like, best buddies. We garden together and share seeds, cut flowers for each other and trade cooked foods weekly. So, I’m suspicious but I trust you unless you show me I can’t. And I will say hi to you, bloody mediocrity, but not if I was 17 because I was shy sometimes.