Reply To: Issue with Boyfriend’s Protective Sister and Tight Knit Family”

Or the bf has to figure out how to move into this next phase of life. He’s not going to live with his sister forever (right?).

My BIL was in a similar spot in his early 20’s. When my sister came along and suddenly he wasn’t available as much it made things difficult. At some point the sister tried shit-talking and my BIL was like “nope. I love you but she’s going to be my wife. If you make me choose, I will choose her.” He had to do the same with his parents – not that they were shit talking, but that they hadn’t adjusted to the fact that their nuclear family was no longer a nuclear family. He was married, with a child on the way and that was going to be his nuclear family.

Tell your BF. He may not do anything immediately, but if you are getting bullied by his family – he needs the opportunity to either make it stop or show you that he’ll always put his family first.