Reply To: “My Mom Has Cancer and She’s Left Me Out of Her Will”

I know a couple of families where the siblings are in very different levels of financial comfort and have had the difficult conversation to say “I love you but you have what you need and your sibling is struggling and so these are the decisions we’ve made and I hope you understand and don’t hold it against your sibling, nieces and nephews.”

Before you cut off your mother definitively, do you think that she’s doing this because in reality, she knows that your sister would absolutely abandon her during this very difficult time unless your mom promised her the house? Do you think she’s being influenced by your sister who is saying that if your mom dies and makes you and your sister share the house, then your husband will kick sister out into the streets? Is your mom perhaps taking her sadness and grief out on you because she knows that you’ll stand by her as the more reliable daughter?

Leaving money and inheritance aside, what would it take for you to forgive your mom and not walk away?