Reply To: “My Mom Has Cancer and She’s Left Me Out of Her Will”

We’ve seen this theme a couple of times lately and I’d suggest maybe a reframing for those in this position. Instead of being angry that your parent is leaving more to the child with less financial security, can you see it as them doing what they can to take care of that child and that frees you up from feeling like you have to? Because, trust me, if you have an adult sibling that is still dependent upon a parent when they die and they’re left with nothing or half, you can bet your ass they’re going to go to the other sibling to the the financial support mom or dad’s passing cut off. Is it “fair” no. But it is your parent’s money to do whatever they want with and it seems like trying to reframe it as “taking care of X and now I don’t have to” instead of “screwing me over in favor of X yet again” is a way to move past it. Especially if your parent is still alive.