Reply To: “Am I A Jerk For Wanting My Husband to Split Our Bills Equally (Even though I Earn a Lot More)?”

I think it’s pretty clear that it isn’t really about the money. Your letter is seething with resentment. Why has the division of household labor not been more evenly split?

I generally don’t think finances should be evenly split, but it sounds like your husband isn’t pulling his weight in any area and is making big decisions without your input. You’re right for wanting to walk away from it.

If there’s any possibility you think he might change, it may be worth discussing with him, but I’m guessing if it’s never been addressed now there might be an insurmountable amount of resentment built up.