Reply To: My parents judged me for socializing as a kid. Now I feel bad for doing it at 26
I think this is someone who hasn’t gone to therapy and keeps thinking if the story is told a different way — new details, some changed, others omitted — that maybe the response and reaction will be different? I don’t know.
I did not have this specific experience growing up, but I did experience one controlling parent and a fair amount of instability, all of which took a mental and emotional toll, things that lingered into my 20s because they went unaddressed. I could not wait to be independent — it meant distance from an unhealthy environment and the ability to actually seek therapy without parental involvement. I can relate to the feeling of wishing the home you grew up in had been very different and even grappling with whether or not something someone did to you rises to the level of abuse… I cannot relate at all to someone who doesn’t take steps to help themselves.
Literally every post you write here is alarming. The response is always going to be therapy. I know there are very real barriers to accessing a good therapist you vibe with, but you’ve been posting here for a pretty long while showing zero signs of growth. There’s nothing anyone can say on a forum that will take the place of working with a trained mental health professional who specializes in your area of distress when your issues are of this magnitude, LW.
