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Here’s what you don’t seem to understand, this isn’t a “lack of transparency”. Your daughter is a grown woman not a charity that you’re donating to. She doesn’t owe you an explanation for ANYTHING. She doesn’t need to tell you about how she spends her time, what she eats, what she wears, or any other choice she makes. She gets to live her life and make her decisions and share what she wants when she wants. You are in fact judging her for her decisions. So much so in fact that you wrote to an online advice forum hoping to receive justification for your actions. Yes, she could have told you last year that she was no longer interested in helping with your projects but she didn’t because your reactions obviously make her feel uncomfortable and judged. Everyone on this forum is a total stranger and WE can see and feel your judgement and low-key manipulative behavior. If we can see and feel it from one brief letter – carefully crafted to present your stance in the best possible light – how intense must it be in real life?