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I’m with the others on this. You don’t seem like you’re looking for a mutual, trusting relationship with your adult daughter. You keep using the word transparency, but really, it’s control you want. Your daughter isn’t telling you things because she doesn’t feel like you’ll support her and/or will be disappointed.
I’m relating your stance on veganism to religion, because really, it’s similar. As an adult, I decided I no longer wanted to practice Catholicism. I didn’t make some big announcement to my dad. It just happened. Is he disappointed? Absolutely. Does he wish I’d go to church? Again, absolutely. Does he need to have convos about it? No. For our adult relationship to work, we have boundaries about certain topics. It’s healthy for us and we’re able to remain mutually respectful to one another because I know I don’t feel pressure or his disappointment.
And you want open and honest communication from your daughter, but your don’t give that I. Return. This job thing is a perfect example of that. If you felt she didn’t want to be part of your side hustle any longer, why didn’t you ask her about it instead of waiting her to tell you and then being upset? It’s weird. Practice what you preach, so to say. Right now, it seems one sided. That doesn’t work when your children become adults.