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Pammyj
November 26, 2023 at 8:25 am #1126826

Oh my, where to begin…

Firstly, and I say this as a plant based eater who changed her diet for ethical reasons, people like you and your wife are why I will never call myself a vegan! The militancy that so many vegans exude is so distasteful and off putting.

But I don’t see the issue with your daughter as much about her being vegan as I do about healthy boundaries. You, and moreso your wife, are a hot mess. You clearly don’t seem to recognize boundaries at all. My children have all left the nest too and the most important thing I’ve learned is how important boundaries are and even though we are still close we don’t talk incessantly because they are busy with their lives. Your daughter is learning to be on her own and as long as she knows you are there for her unconditionally, she will when she wants and needs to. For you two to be so needy and pushy is only making her want to stay away.

You need to BACK OFF and please, please, please, get some therapy. Truly. Practice boundaries with everyone, not just her. Understand not everyone wants to be vegan, stop playing the victim, and allow people to walk their own path.