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Lightningrod5
November 26, 2023 at 9:58 am #1126829

All,

I will explain the Zoom Thanksgiving first. My wife and I are in the age range where COVID can be deadly for us. While we are all vaccinated, my wife, son and I continue to wear masks to all public places, outdoors or indoors. After moving out, our daughter told us she is no longer wearing a mask. We wouldn’t feel comfortable eating with her unmasked, so we proposed either we eat in separate rooms with doors closed and then congregate again in the family room while wearing masks, or Zoom. She took Zoom.

Considering all your replies to me so far, I know this may gather ire responses. But it is something we feel quite strongly about and we don’t feel comfortable pushing this boundary when it involves our family’s health. At minimum, we will wear masks another two years until our son graduates from college so that is accomplished, and neither us or him get severely ill or worse until then. We got our daughter through school; we want to do the same for our son successfully and healthily.

Regarding veganism, with all commenters saying it is not my “right” to know, I AGREE. I am talking about something beyond “rights.” I don’t say “transparency” with which she SHOULD tell me, but I would absolutely like her to. I want her to feel she can tell me anything. She does not have to do it as an independent adult, but why not share something so impactful with people that care about you?

I don’t think I know how to explain my point more adequately. I feel some of you have decided on me being the bad, tyrannical dad, when that is far from the history of our interactions and definitely my intent.