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Dude, this is so weird. A grown adult child does not owe a parent full transparency regarding any area of their life — dietary preferences, religious affiliation, finances, career, dating/relationships, you name it. You seem to want a very enmeshed relationship with her.
She told you she was waiting until she felt comfortable to tell you about her dietary changes, but you completely dismiss this because you wanted that information on your terms and timing, not hers. And then decide you’re the real victim here. It’s nice in theory that you want her to feel comfortable talking to you about important things, but you’re going about it all wrong. Instead of offering her support or telling her you’re proud of her for making the decisions that work best for her, you’re judging her for her dietary preferences, for choosing not to tell you, for what she said when she did tell you. Why would she share anything with you when you act like that?