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ron
November 27, 2023 at 2:52 pm #1126859

True, Copa. And this also read strange: “we paid her for her work, as much as we could afford.”
You either paid a reasonable rate, or you didn’t. I guess you got the ‘living at home, under parents’ thumbs’ discount before she moved out, just as she didn’t fight your position on veganism when she was a dependent living under your roof. She’s now an independent adult, living on her own, paying her own bills, and making her own decisions. That changes everything. She did finish her project, even if you weren’t happy with the timing. Earning her own way in life and running her own household give her less spare time to support your hobby business.

And, one final thing. Your daughter did not lie to you. She didn’t tell you that she was no longer vegan, but apparently never told you she still was, when she wasn’t. She simply chose not to share that with you. Considering how you reacted, that seems to have been a wise decision.

I doubt all that happened is that you calmly asked her questions. If that were the case, your posts here would be calm. They weren’t. Nor does it seem like ‘calmly’ questioning her slaked you anger, and yes you write as if it truly is anger rather than disappointment, even a little bit.