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LisforLeslie
November 27, 2023 at 3:32 pm #1126860

I’ve tried multiple times to thoughtfully respond but honestly, daddy dearest sounds exhausting. And I’m while I want to care about his hurt feelings – I just can’t simply because the absolute lack of grace and consideration for others combined with the absolute lack of self awareness.

I bet you’re one of those people who make rules because they seem “right” by your worldview and you sit in judgement of anyone who doesn’t live by your code. You want to be a “live and let live” kind of guy, but you’ve got certain “ideals” that you think make the world a better place so you think those closest to you should have learned that and taken that on as their own world view. And that they have to tell you when they’ve made other decisions. Did you sit your parents down and tell them when you stopped eating meat? Or did you think about it, determine it was the right course for you and then let them know at a later time? Did they shame you or try to make you feel guilty for not eating meat? Did they make life more difficult for you? Then why the fuck would you do that to your daughter?

Kids make choices that their parents don’t agree with all the time; how you choose to accept them as they are versus how you expected them to be… is all on you.

Also, because you seem like you’re one of those people who claim some high moral ground with your veganism: You just give that shit up. Everything you consume comes with a moral price tag and unless you’re living off the grid (which you aren’t because you put a letter on a website) then you’re doing damage simply by existing. If you have bought any clothing in the past few years – probably made with near-slave labor. Not made of “organic” fibers, probably made in large energy consuming, area polluting factory. Wear non-leather shoes? Those will still be lumps of plastic thousands of years from now. Drive a car? Oh, it’s a hybrid? That super cool battery is made by stripping the land and using toxic processes for manufacturing. Who’s picking your vegetables? Who’s making your tofu? Get off your moral high horse because it is a stinking crock of shit dude. You don’t want to eat another creature – that’s fine, but the creatures you abuse without even realizing it is a stunning hypocrisy.