Reply To: “My Husband Let’s Me Support Us and I’m No Longer Attracted to Him”

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Miss MJ
November 27, 2023 at 4:51 pm #1126861

Well, you need to have a conversation. Several, actually. Because while your lack of sexual attraction to your problem is a problem, it’s not The Problem; it’s a side effect of what’s really eating at you: resentment and feeling taken advantage of. So, that’s where I’d start the discussion, preferably with a marriage counselor. And, I’d also encourage you to think about what needs to change for you to let go of some of that resentment. Is it time for you to switch jobs again to a less demanding, albeit maybe less lucrative, field? Is it time for him to find a new line of work to have more input into your financial situation? Do you both need to recalibrate your lifestyle? You’re not stuck – you have options. And you’re not wrong to be frustrated if you feel you’re being used or he’s not contributing to your relationship equally. But if you really don’t want a divorce, you need to start talking about what has to change because it is clear from your letter that this situation is no longer sustainable for you or your marriage.