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I’ll say a few things.
It is very, very likely he has been cheating for many years. Does it not ring alarm bells for you that:
One, he spends three evenings every week (half the week!) “de-stressing” with his friends;
Two, refuses to move with in with his WIFE and CHILD 2 hours away because he can’t “live without his friends”;
And please remember that three, the rates of abuse and infidelity skyrocket when a woman outearns her partner. This is a statistical fact.
I suggest you tell him that xes is going to be off the table until he starts to meet you halfway in supporting the family. Just be honest and tell him that you’ve been doing it for his happiness, but you’ve come to a point where you realize that you’re losing the desire for xes because you’re always tired and you feel like he’s doing more taking out of you than pouring back into you – and you’re NOT willing to try and fix the problem by having better xes or trying new things in bed, you want the real root of the problem to be addressed by him showing you that you’re still partners in this marriage and not a boss and his assistant type of dynamic.
I understand you still have love for him (which might be unearned and very much outgrown by now), but is this how you pictured your middle years? Slaving for an entire family in a miserable marriage away from any support systems? If the above does not work, divorce.