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But it’s never been proven true that I’m not easy to talk to! That was the most illuminating line for me. Unless you accept that something is true, you dismiss it lightningrod. You dismiss her feelings and experiences of you…which is why she turns away. You minimize you bad behavior and accuse her of victimizing you. You are telling her what she feels is a lie and that her view of you is not true, which is so completely and utterly disrespectful to her. This is how you don’t even try to understand her. She’s being remarkably candid for this, in my opinion.
You are at once demonizing and demanding attention from your daughter. You’re saying she is a liar, that’s not how you treat her, but please spend time with me and trust me!
Why would she??? You’re dismissing her and ignoring what she needs from you. Step, it up, Dad.